Dating during Corona (Covid-19) Times Part 3 - 25mins Early To Our Date!!!

 This is my first time going out on a date with a dad.

Specs:

• Chinese
• 39
• Dad to a 3 year old who is on the spectrum
• Separated for 2 years, amicable break up
• Lives and works in Vaughan
• Born in Indian
• Speaks 6 languages (English, Cantonese, Mandarin, Hakka, Hindi, and something else...) 
• Met on Bumble

Things in common I have with this guy is that we like to drink and we started hitting the gym again.

I went on a date with, lets say Mr. Hakka (that is the language he speaks with his parents). I know... I went out to play on a weekday! But during this pandemic why not?

I was actually surprised when he said lets meet up on Tuesday, we were matched up on Saturday and 3 days later we met up. During our online conversation I asked him where he grew up, he said that was a conversation to have over beer, I was intrigued. Today we were talking to each other throughout the day, he had gone to the gym and skipped lunch. He actually showed up on our date at 6:05pm when the date was for 6:30pm, he didn't even message me to say he was there. My last date, the guy was 25 minutes late and this guy was 25 mins early!! He mentioned he was super hungry, I told him I wouldn't judge if he ate twice. When I got there was was drinking beer on an empty stomach. He must have been starving because he ordered his Thai Bowl and Chicken Fingers with fries for us to share. We were supposed to share the Chicken Fingers and Fries, but I only had one because I wasn't that hungry. He got a second beer and encouraged me to have a second glass of wine. 

This guy was super interesting, he is Chinese, but was born and raise in India, he came to Canada when he was 19. No wonder he wanted to tell me over beer, if it was online I would have a billion questions. He doesn't have an Indian accents, which I think would have been super interesting. He separated from his wife 2 years ago and joined Bumbled in December 2019. He told me he has gone on many dates since, he even went on dates earlier on in the pandemic, they would social distance in the car, go for walks, etc. He believes that once you start talking to a person you should meet right away, that way you don't create a grandeur persona of the person in your head, no wonder he wanted to meet so early.

I asked him how he ended up in Canada, and it was pure fluke. After graduating from high school he went to Indonesia for university, he dropped out and was dicking around. Since he wasn't working, he had to accompany his grandmother to New York, Virgina and Toronto so that she can see her relatives.  After meeting up with his boarding school buddies, he loved it here so much that he stayed, went to U of T, met his ex-wife and started working here. He currently lives (he owns his own place) here with his sister who apparently speaks even more languages!

He has nothing bad to say about his ex-wife and her family, they are on good terms, his wife is Korean.  When I see a couple who are separated, but are amicable, I wonder if they would get back together. There is no hate, no animosity and they share a child. What is preventing them from following back in love with each other again? What if they just needed time to separate to realize that they still love each other?

When we were talking about where we grew up I told him I lived in Mississauga. He asked me where, and I told him I grew up in Lorne Park. He said "Lorne Park"? I thought he didn't know where it was, so I went on saying that it was near Port Credit, he then went on to tell him he knows where Lorne Park is because he used to live there! Him and his wife moved to Lorne Park and a year later, they decided to separate. I was shocked because not many people know where Lorne Park is let alone by a place there. Lorne Park is an affluent area where the townhouses start at $1M. He even told me his jogging route and that used to be my jogging route as well! I told him I missed that area, but he didn't like it because it was too far away from everything. Something that annoyed us both was when people asked us where we lived and when we say Lorne Park, people would say "where?" If you don't know Mississauga, why ask? Then I said it was because they know Square One and they were hoping that is where we would say. He also used to live by Park Lawn and Lake Shore which is 5 mins away from me. He kept bringing up that he wants to move back to that area. 

When we were talking during the day, around 4:40pm he asked me if I was done work. I told him I have work to do, but I will do it tomorrow. He mentioned how he liked how relaxed and chill I was. Then when he said he wanted to meet earlier, I said I will quickly take a shower and not put on make up and head right over, he again mentioned how he liked how chill and low maintenance I was. He brought up how he liked how low maintenance I was again during dinner. Not sure if that is a compliment. 

By the end of the night, even before the bill came he practically threw his credit card at the waitress. I told him I would pay and he said I can get the next one. Overall, I had a good time with him good conversation and good laughs, our date was 2.5 hours. If he were to ask me on a second date, I wouldn't object. But who knows I have misread these situations before.

All in all the date went well, but the thing that annoyed me was that he would ask me the same questions over and over and I would say something and he would later on question me about the exact same topic that I had talked about.. like are you listening to me??? But overall I had a good time. 

I also have a date with Weedman on Saturday. Tomorrow I have a call with a match making service!! We will see how that goes!