Online Dating In The City

So, I should have realized Weedman as just going to be a fuck boy... literally and figuratively.. Our conversation sort of just fizzled after a while, but "I thought hey we are compatible in bed, so why not just keep him around!?" This may or may not have been a good idea...  I would just message him when I wanted to hook up, which he was always in agreeance to. Eventually I thought maybe we should make this more consistent because we were hooking up every other week anyways. So, I suggested we hook up every other week and we alternate places, he said that was a good idea. I am noticing more and more that more we meet up there is one less thing we do. Without going into too much detail, he is starting to meet up later and later AND he doesn't message me until after our scheduled time to tell me he is running late. Most recently we stopped kissing good bye, the we stopped hugging good bye. I know this is purely for sex so I shouldn't expect "relationshipy" st...

 Not that I have all the confidence in the world, but I do know when to cut people off and I know what I deserve. My guy friends were shocked and shook their heads at me when I told them about me sleeping with Weedman on my first date, while my girl friends praised and wanted to know more details. My group of friends and I are late bloomers in life, I have only slept with 4 people (inclusive of Weedman). There are some bad decisions I made which both my guy friends and girl friends let me have it and gave me a lecture.  Things with Weedman have died, not that we got into a fight or anything, we just stopped messaging each other. My last message was to him on Sunday, August 23rd and he read it and no response or no new dialogue. At this point, I am not chasing this guy. That week, I had an emotionally hard week. I went to a funeral yesterday where I had to see a childhood friend bury his dad and that brought up all the feelings again about my dad.  I am too exhausted for t...

*Again, writing this while I wait for my date with Mr. Weedman* Soooo... tell me how he is late again!! How does he not know I do not like tardiness. This time he was only 14mins, so I guess he is getting better. But again as soon as he told me he parked and was on his way, I reminded him to bring a mask then he tells me he forgot his mask in his car, so he had to go back... AGAIN! The starting of this date is deja vu. We are in days of Corona he should be used to carrying around a fuck'n mask! I told him he needed those lanyards that old people use for their glasses, but for his mask. So the date went well, but then again, I think all my dates go well until there is no second date. He wanted Korean food so we went to Korea House on Bloor and Christie. We were going to meet at 7:30pm, but as mentioned above he was late!  When he arrived I asked him about something about his place (I can't remember what it was) and he said you can see for yourself. Even though he lived 15 mins ...

 When you are on these dating apps you realize that people who are on one are on multiple, just like I am. Even though I swipe left some people come back to my rotation, sometimes weeks after, but sometimes 5 swipes later. I have decided to reach out to a matching service after multiple friends have told me to look into it. One friend suggested I reach out to a service called Match Me Canada (www.matchmecanada.ca). I looked at their website, they are located in the financial district in Toronto, which  is a good sign seeing so rent is super high. I equate that to them being successful. They do not have pricing on their website, so I had to schedule a call to see what they were all about. I spoke with Rebecca who is a match maker and she informed me what the service was all about. They have a coaching staff and people who research to find mates, one thing I like about this is that you can get feedback, which is something you cannot get on a dating app. For instance, I thought m...

 This is my first time going out on a date with a dad. Specs: Chinese 39 Dad to a 3 year old who is on the spectrum Separated for 2 years, amicable break up Lives and works in Vaughan Born in Indian Speaks 6 languages (English, Cantonese, Mandarin, Hakka, Hindi, and something else...)  Met on Bumble Things in common I have with this guy is that we like to drink and we started hitting the gym again. I went on a date with, lets say Mr. Hakka (that is the language he speaks with his parents). I know... I went out to play on a weekday! But during this pandemic why not? I was actually surprised when he said lets meet up on Tuesday, we were matched up on Saturday and 3 days later we met up. During our online conversation I asked him where he grew up, he said that was a conversation to have over beer, I was intrigued. Today we were talking to each other throughout the day, he had gone to the gym and skipped lunch. He actually showed up on our date at 6:05pm when the date was for 6:30...

 In my previous post I mentioned how I had a great time with Weedman (refer to Dating during Corona (Covid-19) Times Part 2 - Late and Annoyed ), which I did. But the thing I failed to mention was that we ended up sleeping together after the first date. This was my first time sleeping with a guy after the first date. We had a GOOD evening!!!! The next morning he kissed me goodbye and told me to message him when I was done church. But he messaged messaged me first, which I thought was a good sign. He also told me that it was production time, so he was going to be busy, which was fine. Prior to Covid, I used to be super busy, to the point where I had my own assistant. The messages were coming in far and wide in between, which I understood because when I was busy at work, I was only able to message guys twice a night.  On Monday, I had a bad day. I semi told him about it, but all he could say was "can your brothers help?". After that there was no follow up, no check in to see if...

I don't  know what it is about this pandemic, perhaps it's boredom, but I have been willing to go on more dates, even though I have gain about 20 pounds after gaining 40 initially! I figure if they can like me with my pandemic weight, they really like me for who I am.  Specs: Asian Works for a weed company in Hamilton Used to write jingles Lives in mid-town in a condo, his brother and parents live in the same building Drives a X2 He has a J name, it's actually one of my favourite names I am not sure if all women do this, but when I am excited about a date, I will eat less the night before that way I am not bloated the next day, and give myself a facial that way my face looks refreshed. During this pandemic, my skin has been going through some horrible shit, I have broken out many times due to the sun. This time the night before I gave myself a facial Dermologica Hydration mask, drank lots of water, and I worked out. I ordered a dress online from H&M that I have deemed a...

My friend, after dating a jackass in secrecy is now dating someone good and is showing him off. I was so excited for her, I wanted to meet this new man in her life who is treating her well (hereafter known as "the boyfriend"). She then asked me if I would be interested in getting hooked up with his friend. She suggested we all go our for drinks, I of course agreed, why not? At this point, there is no harm meeting people. We decided to hit up a patio at Yonge and Sheppard called Nome. I got a message from my friend saying that the guy was most likely not going to come, but I was ok with that because I was excited to see my friend and her new man. I arrived and with some drinks we were having a good times, seemed like my friend and her boyfriend were really into each other. They were telling me about their dates during these Covid-19 times and it turns out he knew a lot of my friends. Then his friend came. His friend was not bad looking, he is a mechanic (hereafter know...

I am an assistant, so I keep impeccable records for my boss because I run her life, and I am very organized when I travel to the point where you know what I will be doing by the hour. When it comes to online dating, my records are not organized at all and I learned the consequence of that today. When I exchange numbers, I don't save them in my phone because I know I will probably get sick of talking them and just ghost them, because I am a coward like that. When I get ghosted, I am ok with that too because these talks are not serious. There is a Portuguese guy who I have been talking to off and on for probably 4 to 5 years, we always talk about meeting up, but his schedule is a pretty crazy because he does shift work and when he is not doing shift work, I am working crazy hours.  Spec: Portuguese Lives with his sister in Toronto Works for some retail distributing company (I keep forgetting) Likes to do stock market When we first started chatting he had dark br...

My mom is still on the hunt for finding me a man. Her neighbour friend knew a guy who apparently is SUPER NICE! If you haven't guessed my mom is pretty savage. She told her friend I was fat, to warn this guy (and people wonder why we girls have complexes and body image issues)! Spec: Born in Korea, came to Canada when he was 15 Works for Bosch Appliances as a repairman Lives in North York Has a younger sister My mom trying to hook me up with a guy is like throwing wet paper towels to the ceiling and seeing which ones sticks. Talking to this guy was like pulling teeth. It was sooooo painful. Because of the quarantine, we had no lives or updates to talk about, we also seemed to have nothing in common. Travel is a big part of my life. I asked him if he liked to travel. First he said yes, but then said he hasn't traveled much and that he was waiting for "someone special" to travel with. THAT IS A PET PEEVE OF MINE!!!! If you have only been to Korea and Vancouver...

2020 has not been a good year. On January 20, 2020 my dad was struck by a vehicle while crossing the street and died on the spot. On January 25, 2020 we buried my dad and the first case of Covid-19 was reported in Ontario. How do I remember this? I remember watching CP24 while waiting for our food. Our family got together at my mom's place for dinner after the burial. On March 16th we were ordered to work from home. Toronto, like a lot of the cities in United States were shutting down except for essential services. So, during this time what do you do to pass time? Yes, work bazillion hours, but in between, I downloaded Tinder and Bumble to see what was around. Even though I can't meet up with them, talking to them to pass the boredom was a great idea. PLUS, apparently divorce rate is going to be high after this pandemic, so might as well start looking and jump on them once the ink dries. There are three guys I have talked to, I met them through Tinder. 1st Lawyer, I wish he...

I can't believe there are so many scammers on Instagram! This has been evident on the show 90 Day Fiance - Before the 90 Days when Yolanda was scammed by Williams. For those who do not watch this show you must. After the first scam, another Asian guy messaged me. He was from UK, but this time in London. He was in Engineering, starting to sound familiar? This was starting to feel like deja vu, so I asked my friend who likes to do detective work to investigate. She did a reverse image, she found the real guy. The real guy lives in Hong Kong living his best life, he can barely speak English. I messaged him to let him know that there is a scammer using his pictures. He was shocked. I will not post his picture as he is a real person. Honestly people, if you are not a celebrity you should put your settings to private. Even Celebrities have a private account. The scammer got all his pictures from his Instagram. Today I received a private message, this one was a doctor. Instagram han...

Hello Everyone! Happy 2020! We are barely into 2020 and I have been scammed already via Instagram! How can our beloved social media app betray us? Since working at my current job, it has been hard for me to date. So, I found it very suspicious when in early December, I got two friend requests on my personal Instagram page by two guys and they immediately DMed me. Guy 1 He is a Canadian born Thai, who is an Engineer, who lives in Thailand. His father passed away, when he was young and his mom couldn't afford him so she sent him to Thailand. Things just fizzled out because of the time zone difference, but at the same time there was 0% chance we would meet. He had no plans to come to Canada, which also means he had no plans to see his mom. Which is weird... But his Instagram had lots of photos of himself, so it seemed like a legit account. Guy 2 Guy 2 and Guy 1 messaged me on the same day.  Guy 2, whose name is "Steve Wu" lives in UK, is also an Engineer, he is hal...