Is Online Dating Really Easier??

Is online dating really easier than meeting someone in a club??

When I go on my OK Cupid account I see that there are over 180,000 members.. So.. How does that make it easier to meet someone? It turns out you have to be very proactive on it! The only difference is that when you have the courage to message someone, they don't necessarily have to respond. I actually take the time to read over someone's profile, and message them, but no response. Although this is a faceless dating site there should still be some etiquette. I mean is it not considered rude for them not to either respond to the question or even just say thank you? I know they checked out my profile, which makes me sad... I thought online dating was supposed to relieve the pressure...

Also, when did everyone start working out? These guys who are "so active" may still be single because they don't have time to meet girls.. Working, gyming, meeting up with friends pretty much takes up the whole week, so when do they expect to spend time with their significant other?

What I gather from this is.. I can't get a guy who I'm interested in to talk to me online.. At least in person they are forced to talk to me. Even though I have never met these people they make me self conscious for not having been to the gym in 2 years.

Guys online are also cowards. There have been couple of instances where I talk to a guy and then all of a sudden he drops me.. No response.. I don't follow up, because I don't want to seem desperate.. Then my friend tells me that the guy is probably speaking to 40 different other girls and found a connection with one of them.. Which is valid.. BUT!! I logged on and saw that he was online..  Which I can only assume that he didn't find a connection and just decided to drop me.

I know there are people around the world who read my blog and I would like your comments and feed backs on any of my blogs.. Suggestions to my approach.

If you have had success with online dating.. Please let me know!

I will try to update my blog at least once a week with just my thoughts and experiences.

Thanks for reading!

Comments

  1. syllay22 April 2014 at 10:01

    There isn't really any online dating etiquette. It's either they're interested or not. Because it's so time consuming, do you think people want to take the time to say, "thanks for the comment but I'm not interested"? You should be the same way. Don't waste your time on guys that message you but you're not interested. Just ignore and move on. It's a numbers games. Guys will message hundreds of girls whether they're interested or not just to get a message back. One out of the hundreds is bound to send a message back. People have nothing to lose when it's online dating. Don't let an unresponsive guy deter you. Just wasn't meant to be then.

    When you're talking to a guy, he's probably talking to plenty of others. That's the point of online dating. You're getting to know multiple people at the same time. When you go on an actual date, that guy is still talking to tons of girls. Even on the second, third, fourth, fifth, that guy is going to still keep his options open. And you should too. It's up to the two of you to date exclusively but until one of you mention is, the other will continue to see what else is out there.

    Don't feel self conscious about yourself. It's a learning experience where you can meet all these different types of guys and then come to know what you really want in a partner. And if you continue to feel self conscious, then do something about it! You can do it!

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