Just an update - 2 in 1 post

So, instead you will get three events in this one post.

First Event - Money over happiness 
It is a known fact that I work a lot (hence mama Jo helping me find dates on the internet). One night after working 10 hours I decided to unwind by watching TV and having a glass of wine. There was nothing good on TV so I decided to open my Tinder app. I know! I know! Tinder is an app for hook ups, but I was bored and just wanted to swipe. Swiping on Tinder is like a game, it is addicting. 

Anyways my first swipe I was matched with a guy.
Spec:
  • 44 years old
  • Author - wrote a self help book to help Executives organize and balance their lives
  • Lives Downtown 
  • Professional organization coach? (Not sure what to call him.
  • Separated for 18 months, married for 17 years
From hereto, I will be referring to him as the "Self Help", as I doubt I would meet another self help author.


Self Help and I hit it off on Tinder, so we exchanged numbers and started texting. He seemed like  a really sweet guy. We were texting every day, he was working on his business (self help business). 

We have been talking for about 2 weeks, he had suggested we meet up couple of times, I was either busy or working. Lately work has been really stressful. So I had to decline everytime he suggested we meet up. So we actually picked a date to meet up, but from the time we set the date to date day he asked me few more times to meet up.

This was the first guy I spoke to on the phone from online dating. I remembered my friend saying that if he does not speak to a girl he does not meet up with, his thinking is what is she hiding? So, I agreed to a phone call. We had a nice chat. That weekend he was going to a wedding in Muskoka, he said the couple already had their ceremony, but was having a party (like a second wedding). When the weekend rolled around I was busy working and I had completely forgotten that he was in Muskoka, so I texted him and said, "My boss almost canceled her trip.. which meant I would have had to reschedule lol" 
He goes onto writing, "You seem so very sweet and I am sorry we had to wait so long to meet". I was at work on a Sunday night reading this. I teared up thinking, "What the fuck am I doing here?" Working on Sunday, I missed my chance to meet a potentially great guy. BUT then I realized I am going to Portugal in October and Berlin, Prague, Vienna, Salzburg, and Munich in November (cities are not finalized) AND I just came back from Maui! I was like FUCK YEAH!! I am going to explore this vast world! I felt better and I went back to work. My wanderlust is my happiness, which I need money for!


Second Event: You Get What You Pay For
Soooo.. People have told me I should try online dating and they would list a bunch of sites: OKC, POF, Coffee Meets Bagel, Bumble, Tinder, ETC. I have tried all these sites and failed.

Coffee Meets Bagel - I even paid for more "beans", which means you can see more people than what they set you up with. The premise of this is like Bumble, you can only talk to each other if you both like each other. First off they used to send around 4 or 5 a day, now they only send one. Once you are matched with them, they don't message you back! Not even a hello. What is the point of liking someone if you are not going to message them back, or message them at all? Mama Jo likes to call them "Fuck Boys" do not mistake this as guys you want to fuck, this means guys who are jerks and will fuck you over. This site was frustrating because you can go through these beans so fast and not realize you're doing it. Most of the guys on this site were professionals, so I would say the quality was better, but the dead silence is the same as the other sites.

Mama Jo is more invested in my love life than I am. She has spoken to countless of people who have met spouses through online dating or are online dating and came to the conclusion, it is better to pay. Since I wasn't getting anywhere, I thought why not. We decided to try E-Harmony because one of her colleagues were success on this site. First of all, I didn't realize how expensive they were, I am trying this out for 6 months. I am keeping an open mind. Because the site is so expensive, I told Mama Jo I need to meet at least 1 person a week. Mama Jo is hard at work and is determined!

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