Mama Jo Hard at Work - Date 1: Husband Material, But Not For Me

After a week on Eharmony Mama Jo had lined up a guy, I had agreed to meet him. BUT she found another guy who thought was going to be my husband.

Specs:

• 36 years old
• Works in IT at a Commercial Property Firm
• Lives in Aurora

From hereto, known as Aurora.

Mama Jo thought he was sweet and genuine guy who would cherish the woman he is with. I completely agree with her, but I do not think he is for me. The initial conversation was great. He had chosen Terroni to meet, but being on a diet for the past 4 weeks, it is hard to find food you can eat at an Italian restaurant, especially when you LOVE pasta. But luckily

Terroni had a great salad (Nazzarda). 

He was confused because Mama Jo wrote how I love food, which I do, but Mama Jo loves food more. Then I explained how I have been on a diet and I am seeing a trainer. I also mentioned what my cheat meals are, and he said that is what he eats on a weekly basis. On a weekly basis, he orders $80 worth of sushi for himself, on a weekly bases he gets take out pasta. Eats out for lunch everyday.

He orders and app, Calamari, instead of getting it fried, he got it grilled hoping I would have some, which I thought was sweet. 

Earlier on in the date, I had mention that I told my boss I was going on a date, but would be back. So Aurora knew I had to be back at work at 7:30pm (we met at 6pm). 

I had asked questions like have you traveled? He said not really. I hate when people say not really. Not really means I have been to a few countries, but in his case it was actually a no. He has never left this country. He said, "I am waiting to find a partner to travel with" I also HATE when people say that. I mean, why can't you travel when your friends (more on that later)?

I also mentioned how I work for a global firm and that we have secondment opportunities, and right now we have an opportunity in Australia. He says, "You can't go to Australia, I want to see where this goes" Like DUDE relax it is the first 40 mins of a first date. Then I mentioned how I joke around with my boss how we should move to London, Aurora goes on to say, "We have an office in London and Australia". Ummmm.... WTF? 40 mins into a date and you are already moving half way around the world with me?

Aurora does not drink. He has never been drunk in his life. I told him I miss red wine over any carbs or dessert. He asked if the fact that he didn't drink was a problem and jokingly I said he can be the DD. Then he said he does not drive. I was confused, I did not know if he meant he did not have a car or if he did not have a license. It was the latter, he said he knows how, but does not have a license, his excuse is his mind wanders when he does mundane things. Then I asked how does he see his friends? He said he sees work friends at work and he has friends all over the place. I said I had friends all over the place too, like Mississauga and Etobicoke. But he said he has friends all over the world, the kicker is these people are people he met online. His "best friend" (I put in quotes because I do not know who uses that term after 16 years old) he met online, only met in person 3 times. That is somewhat of a deal breaker. The guy that I am with needs to have a close circle of friends, separate from mine. He is an only child as well, so it is not like he is close to his siblings.

Around 7:15, he asked if I had to get to work on time, I said no, as long as it is around that time. OMG the DUDE ORDERS DESSERT AT 7:40pm! I didn't want to sit there, so I ordered green tea (stupid me), it is now 1:40am and I am writing this post because I can not sleep.

He was nice enough to walk me to work, as we were walking he kept saying how we would like to see me again and I would like to avoid the subject. When we got to my building, we talked for a bit and we hugged and he planted one on my cheek. I felt so awkward, I just said, "sorry my back must be a bit sweaty"! He seems like a really nice guy, I am torn, I do not want to see him again, but my friends are telling me to give him a second chance. Blog readers what do you think? This date was definitely better than "Please Do Not Resuscitate This Date". 

There were some red flags.

• I do not like when people do not drink. I feel that they judge me for the amount that I drink aka my mom.
• I do not like the fact that he has no physical friends
• I do not like that fact he does not drive, I would feel bad if our date went late and he had to take the bus. He definitely is not sleeping over
• I do not like the fact that he does not have a healthy lifestyle. I had opportunity to date a great guy, but I passed that up because he was chubby (I was shallow then, working out 7 days a week 2 hours a day). He lost all the weight and is still a great guy, so I missed my opportunity. So I said I would never pass up on a guy because of his weight. The only difference is, the chubby guy played sports, Aurora plays video games and that is how he met his current friends.
• All in all there is no physical attraction on my end.