Why so serious?

 Sooo.. Apparently I am not supposed to ask out guys...

Stats:

  • Chinese
  • Works for his uncle because his uncle is sick and the uncle only has a daughter who is still in high school
  • Drives a Mercedes S450
  • Came to Canada about 5 years ago
  • Has a sister and parents are in China
One thing I admired about this guy was that he seemed to have great work ethics. He seems to work hard because he wants to provide a better life for himself, his family, and take care of his family back home. He sees it as his responsibility to take care of his parents, instead of taking care of this parents with his sister.


He kept talking about a better life for him and his family, which I understand; he is in the hustle. I felt like our conversation was going well, so I thought I would suggest that we meet up. Since I have an opening this weekend, I thought, "hey why not?". My next opening in my calendar is December. The response I got back from him was, pretty much, if I was available I would have asked you out. 

I am not sure if it's because there is a language barrier or cultural barrier.. I was like WTF?! Sooo.. Am I supposed to wait around to see if he's available and when he's available he will ask me out? What the fuck is that?

But like an adult we have decided to call it quits. It's just hard to understand him and he didn't understand my sarcasm and my jokes. I need to stop matching myself with Chinese FOBs, but there are so many of them on Coffee Meets Bagel. Talks about him making a lot of money on crypto and him spending $10K on a massage chair for his parents was getting tedious and boring. We had nothing else to talk about. Dang. Only if I knew how to speak fluent Mandarin, this could have been my guy (maybe). He may have been too serious for me. Where are the fun, motivated, funny, traveler guys? FACK! This literally is taking too much of my time. Time I have, but time that I don't want to waste on these fuckers!

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