No Happy Birthday ≠ Crush Trainer

I have been training with Crush Trainer for over a year now. During that time he had asked me many times when my birthday was. I have told him many times (I think he had asked me 5 times), because he asked me so many times, I have written it in a card. 

This year my birthday landed on a Saturday. We trained on Friday, I guess it was wrong of me to think he would get me something, but he didn't say anything. Friday night, my Jujitsu trainer cancelled, so I reached out to Crush Trainer to see if he wanted to train on Saturday.. My Birthday Day!! He messaged me Friday night to tell me he couldn't. Which was fine.. Saturday morning comes, he doesn't say Happy Birthday.. Saturday afternoon comes, still nothing... Saturday evening comes still nothing... I posted a story on my Instagram thanking everyone for my gifts and birthday wishes. He saw it and still nothing. Then I was thinking ok.. maybe he has a gift for me and he's going to say happy birthday on Tuesday when I see him. Nope! 

Sigh.. what a huge disappointment.. Not because I didn't get a gift, but because he didn't even acknowledge it was my birthday after asking me throughout the year! Like what the fuck? I know he isn't in the greatest financial situation due to the gym closures and his side hustles being on hold, but saying Happy Birthday to someone is fucking free!! He is turning 30 this year, I was going to get him a Clinique or Kiehl's face wash and moisturizer because I always emphasize the importance of moisturizing hi face! UNTIL I saw a Lego BMW RR 1000, he is into Lego and motorcycle, so I thought this would be a even better gift! but it also costs $300 + tax. But... I might reconsider that.. I told myself I wouldn't buy him anything, but it seems like such a great gift! It's been 5 days and I woke up this morning annoyed! UGH! I don't know what to do with my annoyance!

The last guy I went out with forgot my birthday even though I had told him even up until the day before. He thought I was being ridiculous for being mad and I told him that saying happy birthday is fucking free! I didn't expect a gift although he insisted that I refer to him as my boyfriend. But the way he treated me was more like money bags. 

I know I am a generous person and I guess that is why I am more annoyed? I buy Starbucks for Crush Trainer and myself almost everyday (pretty much everyday). Few months ago, he had the audacity to ask me to buy coffee for the receptionist, which I normally did anyways (because I like her and she opens the gym early, unlike the other people), but he had asked me to buy her coffee because it was her birthday.. AND during Christmas he wanted me to pick him up coffee for the new front desk receptionist instead of him. Like what the fuck!? More and more I write about this, the more annoyed I am getting! I don't mind buying things on my own accord, but I don't appreciate when I am asked to spend my money on other people. 

I have to remember, we are not friends. He is my trainer! I am just a client to him and he should just be a trainer to me. Slowly I am coming to this term.. I guess I thought something could possibly happen because I saw/see him almost everyday.. But we do not have a connection outside of the gym except sending each other IG memes and reels. As my massage therapist said, with all these training sessions, I am pretty much paying for his car.

Weedman is coming over on Saturday, at least I will get over it on Saturday!

Onto the next obsession....

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