Going the Distance
Due to my lack of dating experience, this was the first time I realized just because the person is great on paper, doesn't mean he's great. A lot of the times there is a reason why a guy "great on paper" , but still single. But why am I still single? I guess we will get into that later.
Anyways... So, this was another Korean Mama Drama set up, but this time this guy was:
My mom's sister's (my aunt who lives out West) church member's son!
So anyways, this guy was 32 and I was 29. He emailed me first, but because it was an awkward situation he wrote a light introduction email (green flag). From that point on we were writing LONG emails everyday and bbming and eventually talking on the phone. We talked about meeting and he suggested we meet in Montreal during a 3 day music festival. I said sure, but prior to making my friends spend money so I can meet a guy, I told him I would like to meet him first. So, Canada Day long weekend... I made my trip out West..
I am thankful for what he had done, he had charged his Credit Card because I didn't get mine in time. He had also allowed me to be his house guest (green flag). He lived in a beautiful 2 bedroom, 2 Bath 1200 sq ft condo. He picked me up from the airport, and I thought, well he's not HOT, but he's not UGLY. Just a face you can get used you.. As soon as we walked in the door he told me to leave my suitcase by the door so he can wipe it down (should have been a red flag). I didn't think much of it. At this point it was 4:00am Toronto time, so I was exhausted.
The first day there he had to do some work, so he dropped me Downtown and told me to explore. Which I did after I did some work at Starbucks. When we met up again he had taken me to the West Edmonton Mall, not to shop but just to see the largest mall in Canada. I knew we weren't going to stay there long so I kept my Gucci sunglasses on (plus I didn't have my case with me). He tells me to take them off because we are indoors and that I looked like a douche (red flag). We went out for dinner at a place similar to Earls and Moxies. I paid, as a thank you for letting me stay with him. We went back and got a bottle of wine. I had a cigarette in the balcony and he told me to wipe my feet when I came back in, even though I was wearing sandals (red flag).
The next morning over breakfast, he told me he saw a spider and it was my fault because I opened the balcony door (red flag). We had decided to take a stroll around a cute neighbourhood, he saw a family friend through a window of a restaurant and asked me if I wanted to say hi. I said no, so I decided to have a cigarette while I waited. In Edmonton there are ashrays everywhere on the street. Once I was done my cigarette I looked around for an ashtray and couldn't find one, so I threw my butt on the floor. Once I looked around again I saw an ashtray and was in the midst of bending down to pick it up when he says, "Pick it up! There is an ashtray in front of you!" (BIG RED FLAG) I told him that that's what I was doing! When we got back to his place I told him I was going to go to the gym. He said, "if you want a cigarette don't throw the butt on the floor in front of my building". He also said, "Don't make me look bad" (BIG RED FLAG).
There were honestly too many red flags! This should have been my lesson to guys who are perfect on paper are still single for a reason! NO guy should ever talk to you in this manner! It's rude and demeaning! If you are in a relationship like this GET OUT!
Needless to say, I did not go to Montreal to the music festival!
Anyways... So, this was another Korean Mama Drama set up, but this time this guy was:
My mom's sister's (my aunt who lives out West) church member's son!
So anyways, this guy was 32 and I was 29. He emailed me first, but because it was an awkward situation he wrote a light introduction email (green flag). From that point on we were writing LONG emails everyday and bbming and eventually talking on the phone. We talked about meeting and he suggested we meet in Montreal during a 3 day music festival. I said sure, but prior to making my friends spend money so I can meet a guy, I told him I would like to meet him first. So, Canada Day long weekend... I made my trip out West..
I am thankful for what he had done, he had charged his Credit Card because I didn't get mine in time. He had also allowed me to be his house guest (green flag). He lived in a beautiful 2 bedroom, 2 Bath 1200 sq ft condo. He picked me up from the airport, and I thought, well he's not HOT, but he's not UGLY. Just a face you can get used you.. As soon as we walked in the door he told me to leave my suitcase by the door so he can wipe it down (should have been a red flag). I didn't think much of it. At this point it was 4:00am Toronto time, so I was exhausted.
The first day there he had to do some work, so he dropped me Downtown and told me to explore. Which I did after I did some work at Starbucks. When we met up again he had taken me to the West Edmonton Mall, not to shop but just to see the largest mall in Canada. I knew we weren't going to stay there long so I kept my Gucci sunglasses on (plus I didn't have my case with me). He tells me to take them off because we are indoors and that I looked like a douche (red flag). We went out for dinner at a place similar to Earls and Moxies. I paid, as a thank you for letting me stay with him. We went back and got a bottle of wine. I had a cigarette in the balcony and he told me to wipe my feet when I came back in, even though I was wearing sandals (red flag).
The next morning over breakfast, he told me he saw a spider and it was my fault because I opened the balcony door (red flag). We had decided to take a stroll around a cute neighbourhood, he saw a family friend through a window of a restaurant and asked me if I wanted to say hi. I said no, so I decided to have a cigarette while I waited. In Edmonton there are ashrays everywhere on the street. Once I was done my cigarette I looked around for an ashtray and couldn't find one, so I threw my butt on the floor. Once I looked around again I saw an ashtray and was in the midst of bending down to pick it up when he says, "Pick it up! There is an ashtray in front of you!" (BIG RED FLAG) I told him that that's what I was doing! When we got back to his place I told him I was going to go to the gym. He said, "if you want a cigarette don't throw the butt on the floor in front of my building". He also said, "Don't make me look bad" (BIG RED FLAG).
There were honestly too many red flags! This should have been my lesson to guys who are perfect on paper are still single for a reason! NO guy should ever talk to you in this manner! It's rude and demeaning! If you are in a relationship like this GET OUT!
Needless to say, I did not go to Montreal to the music festival!
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